If I have to tell a child something like that a second time, this is what I do. Unplug the controller from the back of the game console. Pick up the game console. Leave the child with only the game controller. Lock the game console away somewhere for a week or more. Tell child that in the future when you tell him or her to put the console down, they are to follow instructions and do it immediately or risk that happening again. Tell them if it happens 3x, the console and controller and all the games will be given away to The Salvation Army and child will not get another one until they get a job and buy it themselves. And they will also need to move out that day as well.

She is also encouraging rebellious behavior in her younger siblings. Is it time to evict her from the family residence?

Oh absolutely! Eighteen year old women are not children, they are ADULTS. And when they want to act stupid and hurt the younger siblings they, as the oldest, should be a role model for and protecting and guiding, their ass has to go!!! Give her 30 days to get out if that long.

In spite of these codependent types talking about your kids are your “kids for life” the reality is your daughter is a grown woman now. You cannot MAKE her do anything under the law. She is a legal adult, and as such she needs to get out into the world and hit it. She is living off you all up in the house YOU pay for, and she is acting so disrespectful and entitled? OH NO HEFFA GET OUT.

And throwing her out is a good example to the younger ones of what will happen to them too. Tough Love is something more parents need to use. I cannot stand all these mamby pamby parents who baby their children into their 30s. Kick them fools out! They will soon learn to respect the work you put in on their behalf as they get their butts kicked out in the real world.

Sometimes they ask to come back, and when they do they have a new attitude because they ain’t trying to be put out again. You cannot talk to folks like this, you have to take ACTION. Parents that yap and yap but never actually follow through on the threats they make come across as weak and silly. Your kids will take full advantage of you at every turn.

Kick her butt out. Give her until April 15th if that long. Personally I think she should be put out tonight.

Unless she rules over a country and has the wealth and power to match, it is just nonsense garbage conversation designed to fluff up a woman’s head and make her think she is special. Though the guy involved does not specifically say WHY she is so “queenly” and when asked, most do not have a clue.

Referring to a woman as “a Queen” is mere rap designed to get into a woman’s underwear. She feels important based on nothing solid or personal! He isn’t complimenting her artistic ability, her financial acumen, her cooking, her work ethic, her family values, her personal fortitude, her resilience in the face of challenges, her parenting skills. Nothing specific. Just some generic street crap “queen.”

Most of the time when they say that to women, they don’t know you anyway! They see you walking down the street or on the bus on online, and refer to you as a QUEEN. You should know from that alone that you are dealing with a clown.

To me any man who would pull out that trash talk is insincere and not worth bothering about.

Married 13 years. We’ve had our share of issues this whole time due to my mental health issues and substance abuse for each of us. I’m doing MUCH better now that I’m in talk therapy and have the right meds. I see everything clearly for the first time in like 10 years. We had talked about having kids when we were first married. But facing my own demons and self-absorption / substance abuse just made a total sh**show of our marriage, and now it’s too late for me to be a mother.

During a heart to heart, he told me he wants kids. I’m 44. He’s 51. Even if I could GET pregnant now, we don’t have extra money to spare to raise a child. We’re both in lower middle class jobs. Between student loans and mortgage and everyone between, there’s no way we can afford a child. I think I already know the solution and because I do truly love him, I need to let him go meet the mother of his children. Right?

Heck no! Slap him with words (not your hand). Tell him that at 51 his sperm is old and defective and he will have a kid with birth defects and special needs. Tell him his window for being somebody's daddy has BEEN shut - he is grandpa age now. Remind him of the balance in his bank book. Give him a list of what it costs to have a baby in green dollars - like for diapers, insurance, copayments, day care so you can both continue working, clothes, shoes, educational expenses, etc. Then for the frosting on the cake, tell him even if he got someone pregnant within the next 6 months, he would be knocking at death's door by the time the kid graduated from high school. What kind of life is that to make a child have - growing up fatherless because his daddy croaked of ancientness.

Tell him that if he wants to go ruin a child's life that bad, that he will have to do it elsewhere. That you have no interest in his fantasy and to pack his things and go. Then laugh in his face and mutter "old men and their dreams of youth... they just can't accept gray hair and wrinkles are their new normal." 

Ha! Ole Billy Goat gray headed grandpa. Needs to sit down somewhere and be quiet.

All he regrets is that he got caught. No woman should stay with a cheater though many do. To me it shows the guy has a major character flaw. Shows that when the chips are down, he is going to choose himself and what HE wants, and not give a second thought to how he is hurting, disrespecting, dishonoring and treating YOU. Cheating also demonstrates a lack of integrity, honor and an unwillingness to be a man of his word. A man who does not keep his word cannot be trusted.

However, should you decide to stay with him, understand that you are teaching him that he can cheat and sleep with other women, or pretty much do whatever he wants, and there will be no repercussions. You will cry and fuss a lil bit, but things will go right back to normal soon enough. So he will cheat again. Because he can. And because you taught him that it was okay to do and you will be right there regardless.

Spend some time thinking about that. Actions have consequences; bad behavior has repercussions. 

It’s the same lesson you would need to teach your children if you become a parent. There must be consequences for errant behavior. All the time. That is how you teach a child that you mean business and to behave properly. Same lesson must be taught to boyfriends. Same lesson must be taught to husbands. There are consequences and repercussions for every choice we make.